August 26, 2013 Vicki Ohlerking


August 26 2013

Post By : Karen Douglas | Pastoral Care Pastor | Celebration Church | Georgetown, Texas

My mom always told me that there are many acquaintances in your life but if you have one friend for a lifetime you will be a blessed person.

John Maxwell says that “we take our relationships too casual. If we want good friendships it must be intentional “.

We as humans are designed to be social beings and we can do far more together than we can do alone.  Healthy friendships lighten our load and help us to be better people.

Ecclesiastes 4: Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.  For if they fall one will pick up his companion.  But woe to him who is alone when he falls he has no one to help him up.

Real friendships take a lot of time and investment but the return is immeasurable. There are some simple truths that help to make a friendship lifelong.

  1. Don’t hold a grudge..resolve differences quickly.
  2. Be available to serve a friend in a time of need.
  3. Express love and appreciation often.
  4. Enjoy a sense of humor with your friend.  “A merry heart does good like a medicine”.
  5. Friendships can be risky but  “better the open rebuke than hidden love.   Wounds from a friend can be trusted”. Proverbs 26
  6. Keep score of their best behavior not their worst.
  7. Offer your best in the relationship.
  8. Guard your friendships.
  9. Do not isolate yourself in a time of crisis but stay connected

Proverbs 17:17  A friend loves at all times.

There are many types and levels of friendships but as a leader it is important to have control over your closest relationships.  Make sure you are thoughtful as to who you invite into your personal life at this level. It is critical for your success in ministry, your emotional well-being and your enjoyment of life.

I look at friendships based on a couple of songs.  I do not want my relationships to be defined by Garth Brooks “Friends in Low Places”.  I would rather they look a little like the Beatles “With a little help from my friends” but most of all I would hope that my friends and  I over the years will be able to say to each other as in Toy Story “You’ve got a friend in me.  When the road looks rough ahead and you’re miles from your nice warm bed, boy you’ve got a friend in me. You’ve got troubles, well I’ve got them too. There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for you.  We stick together and we see it through.  You’ve got a friend in me. “

I have many blessings in my life but high on that list are some very special, lifelong friends.  More that one!!!! I am blessed.  You can be also.