March 23 2017
Becca Ketterling | Co-Pastor | River Valley Church | Minneapolis, MN
My son just got engaged!! As a mother of two boys, I’m overjoyed to be getting a daughter! He proposed on Monday evening, the day BEFORE Valentine’s Day! So sneaky. 🙂 Now the planning and preparations can begin. I’m most excited to be able to go along on the hunt for the perfect wedding dress! (And of course I’ll have to find the perfect mother-of-the-groom dress as well).
Over the years as I’ve prayed for my future daughters-in-law (or daughters-in-love as the new trend is), I have prayed for them to be the perfect help mate. Someone to compliment my son’s personality, be strong where they are weak, love them unconditionally and encourage them always. Someone to laugh with, cry with and tell their deepest secrets and dreams. And someone to challenge them to be the men of God they were created to be.
As I prayed this several months ago, God spoke to me and asked, “How are YOU doing in these areas of loving your husband of 28 years?” Umm… Good… I think… And then I proceeded to go through each category and rate myself. Honestly, I could be doing better in more than a couple areas.
As pastor’s wives, mothers, career women, sisters and daughters, we get pulled from every angle. But after our relationship with our Savior, our husbands are the next most important relationships we have. So how are you doing in the area of being your husband’s biggest cheerleader? The only one that can meet his physical needs (yup you’re the ONLY one!), and the one he can confide in when he’s feeling weak. (Am I the only pastor’s wife whose husband wakes up every Monday morning, even after an incredible weekend of ministry, feeling like a failure?)
So let’s all commit to being the best help mates to our husbands that we can be! Let’s be examples for our daughters and future daughters-in-law to follow. Healthy marriages breed healthy pastors which breed healthy churches. And we need healthy churches to reach this world for Jesus!
March 23 2017