Set aside regular time for you and your spouse.
Early on, my wife and I dated, and that’s how we became close. And we continued to date, we set aside one day every week. We go do things. We go to a movie. We like to antique. It was what she wanted to do, but I wanted to go because I wanted to go with her. I don’t like looking through stuff that is so old that you can break it if you touch them the wrong way. But we had a kids’ TV show called Gospel Bill, and I started noticing there were some props we needed for the show that were in these antique stores. A broom, an old cash register, and stuff like that. So while she loaded up on stuff for the house, I was buying stuff for the Gospel Bill show. We both found a hobby we enjoyed together.
You need a hobby together – something besides your children. It’s too easy to get all of your living and your communication with your spouse and wrap it up in taking care of your kids. And then one day when the kids all leave, you wake up and you realize you have no relationship with the one person left at home with you.
My wife and I are as different as daylight and dark, but we have made a commitment to stay connected. We have this little rule that we follow and that is that when we are with each other, we give total attention to each other. I can’t tell you how much that has helped our marriage. It’s just a sign of respect. It’s too easy to not have time for the most important person in your life. Spend time with your spouse and respect her communication.
One more point on this. Don’t let anything come between you and your wife sexually. If you’re having issues, you get some counseling. More ministers fall because they let things begin to drift in their marriage. Don’t you let that happen.
December 1 2014