Everybody needs friends! I don’t care who you are, how independent and tough you may be, how great your marriage is; everyone needs friends to offer color and depth to life! Unfortunately I have not always felt this way. I think I was burnt far to often as a teenager and young adult by relationships that left me wounded and discouraged. I learned to put up walls and find my confidence in who I was in God and not in the approval of others.
Finding my identity in God was the exact right step. I was able to grow in confidence into the woman that God created me to be. Putting up walls, however; that took me in the wrong direction. For so long I was convinced that my relationship with God and my relationship with my husband was all I really needed. Sometimes I even took pride in that status. Then when I had kids, what more could I ask for? I wasn’t even sure I had room in my life to invite anyone else in. I wasn’t sure I felt comfortable removing the walls that were keeping everyone out. I hid behind my busy world of family and ministry and thought I was happy and content.
You see, letting people into my safe, secure world was a risk. It meant I might get hurt. Come to find out…it was a risk worth taking. When Carey and I moved to Arizona in 2007, we left everything and everyone we knew. Any relationships we did have were miles and miles away. It was here that my sweet friend Valerie pushed through my walls and made it possible for me to finally let people in. Because of her persistence, God gave me some of the most amazing girl friends I have ever had! They allowed me to be “me” and loved me for it.
I learned that my walls were put up with the objective to avoid the hurt, pain and rejection that relationships often bring but they had also kept me from experiencing the laughter, life, tears and joys of real meaningful friendships.
I’ve also learned that there are all different types of friendships and not one of them will ever look the same. I’ve learned to not place pre-conceived expectations of friendship on the people in my life.
In this season, I’m so grateful for the colorful pallet of friendships that God has blessed me with. My life is richer for all of the wonderful women in my life. In my next blog I’m going to discuss all the different types of friendships one can have…but for now, I’d like to know how you feel about friendship?
Is it easy for you to make friends? Do you think relationships are a necessary part of your life? Do you struggle with putting up walls?
– Blog written by Meghan Robinson
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